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4 Things That Make Your Children Smarter

Every children are special. Depends on how parents treat and taking care of them. My experience told me that the more we gain our children’s ability, the more they get smarter. These are 4 main things that make your children smarter.

Music

Musik Angklung
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Trough music, children’s IQ will be increasing. When a baby listens to music, his brain will accept some signal that will give good effect to its nerves. It will help the brain growth. Listening and playing music also works to children to get smarter especially when they able to play one of the music instrument. Sing a song will be one of the simple thing to make children’s memory better. Just do those things happily with their parents. In my experience, I always sing some children song when my daughter was 1-3 years old. I got surprised when she gets more talkative and speak clearly. Now, she is 10 and love to play Angklung at school once a week. She also eager to learn playing guitar. I think, I will buy her a classic guitar first for her training.

Language

Photo from www.thewellarmedwoman.com
Photo from http://www.thewellarmedwoman.com

This is the first thing that children know. They heard mom’s voice when they were in mom’s uterus. As they born, more vocabularies will be heard. Although a baby couldn’t talk yet, but making conversation in his mother tongue will make his brain growth and increasing speaking ability.

When the children grow being a teenager, teach them some good mother tongue, polite sentences, and other foreign language. So, they could learn a lot more than they know at school. Trough a simple thing that they see in daily activities, we could say some vocabularies. They will remain it and ask more about it. By the time they get more vocabularies, they will be able to make sentences and making conversation in foreign language.

Reading

reading with children
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Children usually love pictures and short dialogue on books. As parents we have to choose the appropriate books for them. But the most important thing is we have to read with them not reading for them. So the bonding between parents and children will happen. When the children asking some question about the story, we could give them some advice about the character in the story. The children will get a lot of information and knowledge trough reading. Do this habit regularly so the children will love reading books. Just make it fun for a smarter children’s brain.

Nutrition

Photo : my courtesy
Photo : my courtesy

This is also the main thing on making children smarter. When we give healthy food, children’s body will be healthy too. Give them balance nutrition everyday so it will affect their way of thinking and their brain health. Protein sources will be the nice substance in their meal for breakfast for example. We have to combine some other sources such as carbohydrates, fruits, and vegetables. So, all of that substances will be reacted in their body to support their activities well.

Healthy food will create healthy brain.

So, be a smart parents for smarter children.

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Why Children Do Bullying?

Bullying
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I felt sad when my daughter cried yesterday, after school. Her friends told me that she was bullied by her classmate. It’s a boy. He asked an answer for Math but my daughter didn’t give it. He said, ”Monkey!” to my daughter. As long as I know, that boy named, Al, never did something mean to my daughter. Even the most naughty boy in her class never hurts my daughter.

I asked myself, why is Al doing that? Maybe because he’s angry didn’t get the Math answer or something else. At that time I was so angry and wanted to say something to Al’s mom. But I tried to calm myself and clear my mind. I just said, “Just ignore if your friend say bad words to you. If you’re crying, he will bully you again and again. Be a tough girl.”

As I arrived home, I discussed it with my husband and he said the same thing to my daughter. “You don’t have to fight back. Just ignore him. That’s enough,” said my husband to his girl.

My daughter is still in her sadness for a couple of minutes. Maybe she was confused about her attitude to Al at school. Once again, I tried to cure her scar deep inside her heart. “You are Mom and Dad’s brave girl. Don’t cry anymore if it happens again. Ok?”

But for a child, ignoring the bullying is not enough, and it’s not a solution for long term. I try to think, why a child could say such bad words to their friends? Is it because of his neighborhood or his parents habitual at home? If parents bully their children, then they will imitate those bad languages and they will yell it when they get in to other environment for sure. Then they get used to it.

Moral principal is our responsibility in parenting. If there is no moral education at home then the children would be like an animal. Uncontroll, wild and free. It’s pathetic. My daughter is a child with the gentle habitual. Although sometimes, I yell at her about discipline, but I never say anything bad to her. Especially her Dad, there’s no bad word in every single conversation to my daughter. I really inspired by his gentle affection. So, no wonder my daughter’s crying because of that bad word.

Cause I realized, bad words will create bad child. A Tiger should treat his son like a Tiger. A human should be treated with love and gentleness. Even a Tiger mother has her own way to love her little tiger.

So, whose duty to prevent the children from bullying? It’s ours as parents and teachers at school should be one of the main elements to see the symptom. This is a serious problem for us. One thing that I understand from this experience is ‘don’t bully your children if you want your children be happier than yourself.’

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How to Build Children’s Leadership

Picture from www.leadershipfirstbook.com
Picture taken from http://www.leadershipfirstbook.com

There is one important thing for children on facing their future. It is leadership. Every child has a chance to be a leader. That depends on how the parents treat their children at home.

There is a simple thing that we could start doing in your parenting. Give a simple lesson on daily activities, such as talking honest. This is simple but not easy to do. Remember, our children is a ‘copy cat’. They will copy our manner and behavior. So, if want our child honest, we should do the same.

For example, when we eat two cookies, say it frankly to our child. On the other situation, when our children have a problem with school friends. Ask them what the problem is, listen carefully and see the problem objectively. Try to give some questions to your child, what makes her/ him uncomfortable. Let your child think before you judge who’s on the wrong side. Give them some advise without blaming them. So, your children will learn something about it and can make a decision by their own way.

That is a simple way to start the leadership in our children personality. Sooner or later, our children will get used to solve their problems. But parents must always be the one in the neutral position. We should guide our children way of thinking to the right one. The children who have a good communication with their parents will effect to their progress in school, especially in making friends. Parents must see what kind of type is their children. Is it leader or just a follower?

If our child always decides many things by their own decision, expressed their feelings honestly, and has more self confidence, so their are good in leadership. Their friends would always choose her/him to be a leader in a group . But when your child seems like a shame girl/boy, silent, and afraid to show what their feelings, so their would be just a follower at school. In that case, parents should fix the communication to their child.

Communication eye-to-eye is a very important thing to do to make our children more comfortable and build the bonding love between parents and children. Honesty is the main thing we should have in building the great leadership to our children. They will be the next leader of our country. It is our great duty to build their character.

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How to Support Your Kids Creativity

Making comics
Puga is making comics
I like reading
I like reading at the library

Having kids is a precious gift from God. The gift that we should be gratefull. In order to fulfil our responsibility, as parents, we should support whatever our kids need. Start from their meal at the breakfast time, their clothes, their hobbies, and their entertain needs.

I am a mom and adore my single daughter so much. My daughter likes drawing so much. I see this talent when she was 3 years old. When I gave her a coloring marker, she suddenly made some lines and some ‘abstract’ thing on the paper. I wasn’t realized at that time, but during her growth and her interest to drawing, I amazed by her unique picture. Because I know that kids have their own imagination which adult didn’t has.

Year by year, I see my daughter has a great talent on drawing. She is more creative when I bought her some coloring pencil, crayons, marker, and a thick sketchbook. I always capture her drawing when she finished it. She also likes reading comics and watching a lot of animation movies. She often gives some critical statement about the movie story.

Sometime, I feel like my passion is revealed by my daughter interest. Mostly, when she told me, she wants to be an architect. I hope she will be graduated from the best university in Bandung someday, on graphic design major or architecture faculty. I believed she will get on her passion. I just can see it now on her.

My big mission, as parents, is encourage my daughter’s dreams. I have to push myself to be a ‘good dream manager’ for my daughter without pushing herself to do it. An intensive communication will be the main key to know what our kid likes and dislikes. We should be prepared for any condition that would be happen to our kid on chasing their dreams. Remember, to discuss all those planning with your partner (husband).

Education savings is one of the important thing to be prepared but the most one is our mental supports. So your kid would be more confidence in their achievement and could learning their failure in the right way.

Give your kids some complement on their learning progress in order to make them feel exist. Don’t waste your time to blame on your children’s hobby but concern on what their positive side of it.

A short story comic by Puga Rarasantang
A short story comic by Puga Rarasantang